You’re mistaken. The SB-900 is fully compatible with the D7500. Just because the flash doesn’t do what you think it should do does not mean it’s not compatible. Miscommunication between the camera and flash means that you could have the flash mis-seated in the hotshoe; the contacts/pins might be broken/dirty, the wires inside the flash might be broken; or the microswitch that tells the camera a flash is mounted on the hotshoe may be broken. IOW, it may be your copy of the speedlight or your camera hotshoe, not the model of flash that’s the issue.
Pre-flashes can mostly be turned off if you don’t use TTL. But TTL requires a metering pre-flash to work. And Nikon’s wireless command mode requires pre-flashes to communicate settings changes. You can use an IR filter over the pop-up flash, or switch to radio triggering to turn that off, but any 3rd-party flash with CLS optical master capability would be exhibiting the same behavior.
Just me, but switching from a Nikon speedlight to a 3rd-party speedlight (even a Metz) and expecting better compatibility is not being particularly realistic. 3rd-party manufacturers typically reverse-engineer the electronic communication and as a result of that, are most often victim to future incompatibility (which is why so many 3rd-party flashes have firwmare upgrade features).
In addition to this, Metz Mecatech went out of business last year (2020). Just saying.